“Until when?” A question that every so often becomes a subject of monologue in her brain. “Until when will this pain keep corroding my joy? Until when will I writhe in pain and torment?” But again it’s pain… And one thing about pain is that it demands to be felt. No one ever gets used to being hurt.
We encounter many circumstances in our daily endeavors that may result in pain. Sometimes the source is intentional but at other times its accidental. Take for instance you’ve been looking forward to your silver jubilee anniversary probably for the past 25 years or longer but on the material day your spouse forgets. How do you deal with that? 25 years, with the same person, is a very long time. You could have faced hurdles over the course of time but you’ve made it work. Maybe you had plans which you’ve adjusted over time as you looked forward to this day. But your spouse forgot. Can you avoid being hurt in such a scenario?
We hurt because people fail to meet our expectations. Pain at one point or another is inevitable but how you deal with it is what matters. You can choose to hold grudges because you’ve been hurt or you can choose to forgive.
Holding grudges ruins your life. You become bitter with everything and everyone. You fail to enjoy life as it is in God’s plan for your life.
Forgiveness on the other hand is liberating. It allows you to move past the hurt. Being able to forgive and look beyond the disappointment or the pain is not easy. It doesn’t just happen. It’s a deliberate effort. God gives us the grace to forgive. He comes into our lives, lifts us up when we are low and strengthens us when we are weary. But He doesn’t force Himself into our lives. It is up to us to allow Him to work in us. He is always waiting for us to allow Him to work in us.. to walk with us through the healing process. “Ask,” says His word, “it shall be given unto you”
He doesn’t give up on us. He is always there with us. A silent companion who, if allowed or rather if we are keen enough, will speak and we will listen. Sometimes we are too irritable to the extent that those who seem to be close to us can no longer stand us. But God can never get tired of us. He is that willing friend who watches out for us. He is closer than a brother. He is love
